What to Ask When You Tour an Assisted Living or Board & Care Home
Reserve Assisted Living · 2026
Short answer: On a tour, focus on the things a brochure can't tell you: staffing ratios, caregiver experience, how care changes are handled, what's included in the rate, and how the place actually feels. The right questions turn a polished sales visit into real information you can decide on.
Reserve doesn't take finder's fees, so here's the honest list of what to ask.
Ask about staffing (the most important thing)
- How many caregivers are on during the day? Overnight?
- How long have your caregivers worked here?
- Who administers medications, and how is it documented?
- What's your staff turnover like?
Staffing is the single biggest driver of care quality. A beautiful building with thin staffing is worse than a plain one with attentive, stable caregivers.
Ask about care and how it changes
- Can you handle my parent's specific needs (list them: mobility, memory, medications, transfers)?
- What happens if my parent's needs increase over time?
- Do you charge extra for higher care levels, incontinence care, or two-person transfers?
- Can my parent age in place here, or would a decline mean moving?
Ask about daily life
- What does a typical day look like?
- What activities do you offer, and how many residents take part?
- Can I see a sample menu? Can residents get food they prefer?
- How do you handle a resident who's isolating or struggling?
Ask about money
- What exactly is included in the monthly rate?
- Is there a move-in or community fee?
- What triggers a rate increase?
- Can I see an estimate at my parent's actual care level?
Ask about the fine print
- What's the notice period to move out?
- What are the grounds for asking a resident to leave?
- How do you communicate with families about changes?
And notice what you can't ask about
- Does it smell clean?
- Are current residents groomed, engaged, and calm?
- Do staff greet residents warmly and by name?
- Would you feel comfortable here?
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